The atlas
Every question,
in the words
people used.
We read 574,663 lines of real discussion, from forums going back to 2001 and in five languages, then counted what people actually ask. Below is all of it. Not our topic list: theirs.
- 574,663
- lines of real discussion read
- 384
- numbers verified at the publisher
- 197
- countries of health data, from WHO
- 34
- books, full text, public domain
How to read this. The count is how many separate discussions raise that theme. The share is who raises it, and it is calculated only from messages where the person said so themselves, so it covers about half the corpus. Where nobody said, we left it blank rather than guess.
Finishing and swallowing
7,226Taste, options, and how to agree on them first
- Is there a way to improve the consistency and smell/taste of my vaginal fluids?
- Is it a good idea to cum during the blowjob before having sex?
- vagina tastes spicy?
- what does the cum tastes like?
Technique
7,017The mechanics nobody writes down
- Anyone have any tips to make sex with a condom more enjoyable?
- How do I fix my death grip after trying for a month and my efforts not working?
- tips I can give my boyfriend on giving head?
- How do I (18F) give blowjobs when I’m sober?
Health and risk
2,595Real numbers from WHO and CDC, not reassurance
- should continue oral sex with partner with hpv?
- Chances of STD from gay oral sex when we use condoms?
- Giving unprotected oral sex - early oral STI symptoms?
- Redditors who got the HPV vaccine: how did balance safety and your sex life?
Depth
2,438Going deeper without panic, and whether it even matters
- Girls sentiment for Deep Throat Bulging a Penis, a kink or other?
- Sore throat lasted a few days after deep throating, should I get std tested?
- trans bj, deepthroated then unable to breathe?
- How many women have you been with that can deepthroat and ballsurf?
Reciprocity
1,540When it only goes one way, and how to change that
- What do you do with drool during cunnilingus?
- How do you feel about cunnilingus post orgasm?
- How to relax enough for cunnilingus?
- To whom likes cunnilingus?
Gag reflex
1,180The reflex, and why fighting it makes it worse
- how to stop having such a strong gag reflex?
- How to give a blowjob with a strong gag reflex?
- Sexxit, any help for a girl with a terrible gag reflex?
- Can woman be turned-on by gagging doing deepthroat?
Saying no, and being asked again
1,063Where obligation starts and consent ends
- Does Squirting amount and pressure change depending on stimulation?
- Is it petty if I refuse to give him a blowjob because he won't lick my clit?
- How do I talk to my wife about me being unhappy with our sex life without putting emotional pressure on her?
- Why does my (F20) boyfriend (M20) refuse blowjobs?
Disgust and shame
901The part that is not about technique at all
- How to ask for oral in a way that isn't silly, clinical or degrading?
- Is dirty talk good during oral?
- Do you consider blow job on your knees degrading?
- Do you consider blow job on your knees degrading?
Jaw and stamina
426What gives out first, and how to change that
- Any ways to combat a sore jaw during oral?
- Blowjob to completion w/o jaw pain?
- GF has TMJ so no blowjobs. Solutions?
- Is there anyway to make my jaw hurt less when giving a BJ?
What he actually feels
179The only measurable source of truth in this subject
- men, what does head feel like when the person giving it has a tongue piercing?
- Men, what do you like during a blow job?
- Men, what made your best blowjob the best one?
- Women what are the positives and negatives to a blow job?
Religion and morals
43For people who were told this is a sin
- Sex Education/Advice - Is oral sex right or wrong in a marriage, christian/religious or not?
- Genuinely curious: (For Catholics & Christians) Why is oral sex okay?
- How is your sex life if you are christian woman post marriage?
- What Islam Say About Oral Sex And Drinking Of [Wife Milk]?
Breathing
31People describe gagging and not breathing as one problem
- How to breathe during blowjobs?
- Breathing techniques during blowjobs?
- How to breathe while getting face fucked?
- Can’t breathe through my nose when giving head?
Why we built it this way
Nobody invented
these topics.
Every theme above exists because people kept raising it, and none exists because it sounded good in a curriculum. Two of them were not in our plan at all until the data put them there.
The numbers come from WHO and from our own calculations on CDC microdata, using the CDC’s own method. The quotes are unedited. If we cannot show where something came from, it is not on the site.
That is the whole difference between this and every other page you found today.
The lessons are free and built from this same corpus. The course is what happens when the same method meets a camera.